Tuesday, September 12, 2017

Not ready to let go of Summer 17?

Come out to Randall's Island, this Saturday, September 16th for the #BeTheBetter Adult Funday. ​A day to enjoy fun games (you can play or watch the flag football and kickball tournament), and picnic with dope adults from the tri-state area*. Register here.
 
The event is free, but donations are being requested, and all proceeds will go to support Action for Healthy Kids to help fight childhood obesity within our communities.
 
 
 
* - Event is ​BYOM (music) | BYOB (Blankets)

Sometimes cleaning to Lil Uzi Vert aint it

... though that sassy shoulder he does probably looks great with a broom in hand...

There a scene from I think I love my wife, with Chris Rock and Kerry Washington, and she tells him that he has "nigga ears."
 
(she also goes on to say "white people can make good music too", which is true but irrelevant for this post)
 
Every Sunday, Scottie Beam drops a playlist called Sundays at Scottie's. and they are bringing some gems I completely forgot about. So far my favorite is 003, but click the link in her bio or search her page for all the playlists.

This finna be a breeze big fella..

One of the biggest mistakes I have ever made was getting just TSA Precheck instead of Global Entry.

(I might be being dramatic but whateva)

For about 30 dollars or so more than Precheck, you can get Global Entry (which included Precheck) and breeze through customs. Young, dumb, new to the travel lifestyle Sio didn't know that, and just got Precheck. And as my salary increased, and so did my desire to leave the country, I kicked myself every time on the way back home fornhaving to stand in that long customs line.

Not. No. Mo'.

A frequent traveler who joined my safari in Tanzania told me about Mobile Passport. It's an app that you download, and about 4 hours before you get to customs, you fill out the information. Then, you enter the designated line (usually the same line diplomats go through) and boom! You're through in minutes.

Pro tip: Even if you have Global Entry, still download since its free. I know people who say that Mobile Passport line is shorter than Global Entry sometimes. #WheelsUp

You have to work twice as hard to be half as good.

"Our failures are considered the rule and our success is considered the exception." Luvvie Ajayi

Rhonesha Byng of HerAgenda, interviewed 4 women in a thoughtful Forbes.com article "Failure Is Not An Option: The Pressure Black Women Feel To Succeed"

Its an amazing read, and gives you a quick reminder of how amazing it is to be a black woman or love one (or both).

This that Grey Poupon, that Evian, that TED Talk

I was in Tanzania, working TEDGlobal 2017, and my Lord was it a task. So many amazing people coming together in Arusha, to celebrate, uplift and find solutions for the continent of Africa. However, I rarely get to see the talks while onsite. This time though, while working and running around, a soft, thoughtful, and poetic voice beckoned my attention to the simulcast area. There on the big screen, OluTimehin Adegbeye passionately spoke about how the government land grabs are destroying the lives of thousands who live in the coastal communities of Lagos, Nigeria, to make way for a "new Dubai." She easily became my favorite talk, and favorite person (she twerked in celebration, and put in her TED bio "Ask me about Osun and Cardi B).

Also, 2017 has less than 4 months left. Now is a better time than any to start planning for 2018 (I actually recommend it). Check out these talks on goals.

God loves to show off.

My grandfather, Basil Massiah, was the smartest man I know. He would sit me down for hours, before I was even in elementary school, and teach me about flora and fauna, and the Serengeti and all the places all over the world. I used to cry my ass off to make it stop. Like a dramatic anguished cry that may or may not have had the word Lucifer thrown in there a few times. Begging my mother, grandmother, or aunts to save me and let me watch Power Rangers or Doug. When he passed away, I sat up in bed one night, sobbing alone, and begging God for one more lesson from him. I would give anything to learn just one more thing.

Never let anyone tell you God doesn't answer prayers.

As we drove up the Ngorongoro Crater, our Safari leader, Tommie, aka Tiger (I obviously didn't call him Tommie) said that this has the largest variety of fauna and flora together in the world. Suddenly, I felt my grandfather. All the things he had taught me about, all the things I didn't give a damn about when I was younger, but would pay my last dime to hear him talk about, I was surrounded by.  He brought me here. I knew it. I wondered if he was proud. Or if he saw it from heaven...

So here I am, in a safari jeep with 5 co-workers, choking back sobs of mourning for my favorite teacher. I was heartbroken that I when I return home, I wouldn't be able to show him pictures. See his sly smile when I told him stories. Hear his excitement over being the first one to return to Africa after our ancestors were snatched from our motherland but that's a different post. Then, a gentle but obvious wave of relief came. He probably didn't want me to embarrass myself in front of my coworkers. I kinda just knew he had *already* been here. He probably had walked through the crater, identifying all the species he had read about in the encyclopedia, which he had read every volume of, cover to cover, so many times, that he actually rewrote them. All. And at that moment, he came back, so we could see them, together.  I could almost hear him saying "She She, look at this one". I don't think I ever thanked God so hard before in my life.



In the midst of all my emo, I got curious. "Tiger, how did the crater get here?" The crater used to be a volcano that erupted twice. The first time using almost all its lava. The second erupting so much it gave everything it had left, and collapsed in. It was once higher than Kilimanjaro. Out of the chaos, a new way of life and beauty was formed. At this point, God and Basil were showing off.

No one could have imagined the amazing outcome of the terror of a collapsing volcano. That animals and people alike would call this new place home. That an animated documentary would come from it and be named The Lion King (trust me, it's a documentary). That a girl from the BX prayers would be answered looking at some zebra.

Moral of the story: Sometimes the plans change. Don't let that change the goal. Be amazing in everything you do.