So
this topic of imposter syndrome has been floating around in so many
convos I have lately. I may be just now noticing it, and its always been
said, but I just became very aware of the term. I don't believe in
coincidences, so I decided to research. I was actually pretty sure I had
an idea of what it was... but when I really googled it, I def felt like
the Mr. Krabs meme. The first thing that showed up:
"Some
of the most capable, intelligent, hardworking people you know might be
suffering from a debilitating phenomenon—a distortion of thinking that
makes them believe they're actually incompetent, unintelligent, and
lazy. They're convinced they're faking their way through their
accomplishments, and one day, they'll be found out—exposed as the frauds
they believe themselves to be.
It's
called imposter syndrome. Those who struggle with it 'maintain a strong
belief that they are not intelligent; in fact they are convinced that
they have fooled anyone who thinks otherwise,' as it was first described
in a 1978 study by psychologists Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes that focused on high-achieving women. "
BIIIIIIIIIHHHHH.
If imposter syndrome was a legit disability, 'Murica would owe me
almost 32 years of back checks *insert 100 emoji here*. I literally was
like "this legit?" Isn't this something I have mentioned in multiple
emails feeling like, "I'm not sure why y'all reading this. I really
ain't ish?" All of you who knew exactly what it is, y'all fake as hell
for not telling me. And its not just me. I've heard at least 20% of the
people on this mailing list mention some form of imposter syndrome. Some
of the smartest, most talented people I know, doubting themselves. Then
I thought of all the opportunities I self sabotaged because I didn't
believe in my own abilities. How many times I fished for a compliment or
reassurance from a friend to move forward, masked in form of "advice".
How many genuine compliments I didn't appreciate because I thought
people were just "being nice" or saying it "cause they loved me" (which
in hindsight I shouldn't have thought that cause all my friends are
jerks and ration compliments to me like food in the zombie apocalypse)
So the conclusion is we are all crazy.
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