Friday, May 19, 2017

Imposter syndrome

So this topic of imposter syndrome has been floating around in so many convos I have lately. I may be just now noticing it, and its always been said, but I just became very aware of the term. I don't believe in coincidences, so I decided to research. I was actually pretty sure I had an idea of what it was... but when I really googled it, I def felt like the Mr. Krabs meme. The first thing that showed up:  

"Some of the most capable, intelligent, hardworking people you know might be suffering from a debilitating phenomenon—a distortion of thinking that makes them believe they're actually incompetent, unintelligent, and lazy. They're convinced they're faking their way through their accomplishments, and one day, they'll be found out—exposed as the frauds they believe themselves to be.   

It's called imposter syndrome. Those who struggle with it 'maintain a strong belief that they are not intelligent; in fact they are convinced that they have fooled anyone who thinks otherwise,' as it was first described in a 1978 study by psychologists Pauline Rose Clance and Suzanne Imes that focused on high-achieving women. "

BIIIIIIIIIHHHHH. If imposter syndrome was a legit disability, 'Murica would owe me almost 32 years of back checks *insert 100 emoji here*​. I literally was like "this legit?" Isn't this something I have mentioned in multiple emails feeling like, "I'm not sure why y'all reading this. I really ain't ish?" All of you who knew exactly what it is, y'all fake as hell for not telling me. And its not just me. I've heard at least 20% of the people on this mailing list mention some form of imposter syndrome. Some of the smartest, most talented people I know, doubting themselves. Then I thought of all the opportunities I self sabotaged because I didn't believe in my own abilities. How many times I fished for a compliment or reassurance from a friend to move forward, masked in form of "advice". How many genuine compliments I didn't appreciate because I thought people were just "being nice" or  saying it "cause they loved me" (which in hindsight I shouldn't have thought that cause all my friends are jerks and ration compliments to me like food in the zombie apocalypse)  

So the conclusion is we are all crazy.

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